How to Love the Unlovable
Why do some people act unlovable? The answer is fear! Someone or something has hurt them. They have been ignored or abused in some way. Their response is to keep people from hurting them again. So what do we do, we reject them instead of loving them. This is not the correct response and only makes matters worst.
Steps
Recognize abuse. Abuse is ill treatment toward another person. That person reacts toward that kind of treatment and becomes defensive and acts- Try not to react to them. If they are angry becoming angry at them will not help the situation. Getting angry at someone who is afraid is not the loving response.
- Trying to reason with a person who is afraid is a waste of time. Their actions are not reasonable but their actions are because of their fears. They can be considered as being at war so their actions are aggressive and not calm.
- Practice empathy for the person. Think of how you would feel if you had been treated as they have been treated.
- Patience is necessary. “Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one's character can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast.” (Quoted from Wikipedia)
- Kindness is required. Being sympathetic to a person’s life and needs is the answer.Many hearts are encased as in an Ice Cube.The kindness of a person melts the ice leaving only a loving heart.
- Let go. Do not try to control, constrain or regulate the person. Allow the person to do what they chose to do.
- Live in peace. The freedom to choose the way they live their life is important. And when they make the right choices and act appropriately they need to be rewarded for their actions to encourage them.
- If everyone would do this, we all could live in love with each other. Then the frog will turn into a prince.
