The topic of leadership is being discussed online more than ever these days, or perhaps I’m just really paying even more attention now. Since we are undergoing rapid change in our social institutions, the need for real leadership is more urgent than ever before in my lifetime.
I’ve noticed more articles and books that refer to “Male Leadership” and “Female Leadership” and every time I see those words and often when I read the discussion I heard the thought, “stereotyping, stereotyping” in my mind. When will we as a society wake up and stop trying to put people in itty-bitty boxes and let people tap into more of their true potential? Leadership is not male or female.
Now, there are masculine and feminine qualities or principles that can affect leadership style, but “masculine” does not equal “male” and “feminine” does not equal “female”. Herein lies the confusion.
As a society, we have historically equated the “feminine” only with women and the “masculine” only with men. This is incorrect. I believe the best way to bring this discussion to the table of the general public is to point out that from a brain point of view, the left brain’s role in our functioning has more “masculine” characteristics and the right, more “feminine”.
When functioning at our highest levels of awareness our hemispheres freely “collaborate” with awareness. As a tangible example, language has its linear structure, logic and process from the left side and its contextual, metaphor and humor from the right. However, the left can repress the right to a degree which may explain why when we are too “in our heads” and acting more masculine, the language expression tends to be humorless, factual and “logical” — for example science and many academic books.
Living too much on the side of the “left-brain” could also explain why a person is more likely to ignore their intuition, have poor social intelligence and shaky empathy and be spiritually disconnected to the whole of life. These traits are more of the “right-brain” (the “heart”) traits. When out of balance, repression of the right brain typically shows up as overt competition, “rugged individualism” and greed as the “survival” response will work overtime. Also assertion can easily turn into aggression.
In other words, the needs of the physical, external world would have too much focus without the balance of “going inside” to relax, reflect and re-energize — to just “Be”. Instead we become a society of “doing machines”….
…and in the process we’ve forgotten who we really are. Without the right-brain, connecting with others is challenging at best.Getting back to leadership, there are men who are in balance, demonstrating both sides of the brain characteristics and there are women who are not and vice versa.
Admittedly, I’ve seen most women out of balance leaning toward the side of the right, meaning, they are not assertive enough. Likewise, I’ve noticed men have a tendency to be out of balance on the side of the left. Why? A part of the reason is that most people buy into stereotypical roles; it’s not that nature designs us in a “black or white” way. Even the argument that back during early civilization, “men were hunters and women were gathers” is not necessarily a pure biological argument.
Stereotyping and role-playing didn’t just begin in the 21st century.
I believe even back in the early formation of societies, there were men who would have been better gathers and women, better hunters. In fact, one can find historical information to support this in some cultures. In the animal kingdom, the lioness is a better hunter than the male lion. It’s not about gender.
Personally, I started out in life more passive, relationship oriented and creative. Due to my environment, I became more “masculine” and by the time I got through medical school back in the early 1980’s, I was far more masculine than feminine. Only when I was serving my patient’s did I become more “feminine” which is one reason they loved me so much. When around my male colleagues, I was so strong, that I rarely had any guy try to intimidate me. I’ve now learned how to balance much better and can use whatever I need in the appropriate moment in alignment with my True Self.
What’s the point?
The more self-aware you become that men and women have BOTH a left and right brain hemisphere and can draw on either side with attention, the more powerful you can be and the more likely to reach more of your true potential. You can call on traits as you need them and balance the ones that need balancing.
No, leadership is not “male or female”. A great leader knows her or himself clearly enough to come from a place of authenticity with flexibility according to the present moment situation. Rigid thinking results in alienation, lack consciousness, lack of assertiveness, insecurity, incongruent behavior and lack of clarity of vision. Fear-based self-limiting identity beliefs hold leaders back from rising to the occasion and courageously dealing with whatever needs to be dealt with and do it in a way that inspires others.
21st century leadership will require more self-reflection and getting in touch with old, stereotypical thinking so that beliefs can be updated to create an environment that engages the minds and hearts of the people we serve. Are you up for the challenge? If not, you may want to reconsider your role as a leader. The last I checked, leaders are supposed to lead the way to change for the good of the whole…to get out of the box to innovate and inspire others — not keep people lame, weak or stuck in itty-bitty boxes. What are your thoughts and ideas?
I’ve noticed more articles and books that refer to “Male Leadership” and “Female Leadership” and every time I see those words and often when I read the discussion I heard the thought, “stereotyping, stereotyping” in my mind. When will we as a society wake up and stop trying to put people in itty-bitty boxes and let people tap into more of their true potential? Leadership is not male or female.
Now, there are masculine and feminine qualities or principles that can affect leadership style, but “masculine” does not equal “male” and “feminine” does not equal “female”. Herein lies the confusion.
As a society, we have historically equated the “feminine” only with women and the “masculine” only with men. This is incorrect. I believe the best way to bring this discussion to the table of the general public is to point out that from a brain point of view, the left brain’s role in our functioning has more “masculine” characteristics and the right, more “feminine”.
When functioning at our highest levels of awareness our hemispheres freely “collaborate” with awareness. As a tangible example, language has its linear structure, logic and process from the left side and its contextual, metaphor and humor from the right. However, the left can repress the right to a degree which may explain why when we are too “in our heads” and acting more masculine, the language expression tends to be humorless, factual and “logical” — for example science and many academic books.
Living too much on the side of the “left-brain” could also explain why a person is more likely to ignore their intuition, have poor social intelligence and shaky empathy and be spiritually disconnected to the whole of life. These traits are more of the “right-brain” (the “heart”) traits. When out of balance, repression of the right brain typically shows up as overt competition, “rugged individualism” and greed as the “survival” response will work overtime. Also assertion can easily turn into aggression.
In other words, the needs of the physical, external world would have too much focus without the balance of “going inside” to relax, reflect and re-energize — to just “Be”. Instead we become a society of “doing machines”….
…and in the process we’ve forgotten who we really are. Without the right-brain, connecting with others is challenging at best.Getting back to leadership, there are men who are in balance, demonstrating both sides of the brain characteristics and there are women who are not and vice versa.
Admittedly, I’ve seen most women out of balance leaning toward the side of the right, meaning, they are not assertive enough. Likewise, I’ve noticed men have a tendency to be out of balance on the side of the left. Why? A part of the reason is that most people buy into stereotypical roles; it’s not that nature designs us in a “black or white” way. Even the argument that back during early civilization, “men were hunters and women were gathers” is not necessarily a pure biological argument.
Stereotyping and role-playing didn’t just begin in the 21st century.
I believe even back in the early formation of societies, there were men who would have been better gathers and women, better hunters. In fact, one can find historical information to support this in some cultures. In the animal kingdom, the lioness is a better hunter than the male lion. It’s not about gender.
Personally, I started out in life more passive, relationship oriented and creative. Due to my environment, I became more “masculine” and by the time I got through medical school back in the early 1980’s, I was far more masculine than feminine. Only when I was serving my patient’s did I become more “feminine” which is one reason they loved me so much. When around my male colleagues, I was so strong, that I rarely had any guy try to intimidate me. I’ve now learned how to balance much better and can use whatever I need in the appropriate moment in alignment with my True Self.
What’s the point?
The more self-aware you become that men and women have BOTH a left and right brain hemisphere and can draw on either side with attention, the more powerful you can be and the more likely to reach more of your true potential. You can call on traits as you need them and balance the ones that need balancing.
No, leadership is not “male or female”. A great leader knows her or himself clearly enough to come from a place of authenticity with flexibility according to the present moment situation. Rigid thinking results in alienation, lack consciousness, lack of assertiveness, insecurity, incongruent behavior and lack of clarity of vision. Fear-based self-limiting identity beliefs hold leaders back from rising to the occasion and courageously dealing with whatever needs to be dealt with and do it in a way that inspires others.
21st century leadership will require more self-reflection and getting in touch with old, stereotypical thinking so that beliefs can be updated to create an environment that engages the minds and hearts of the people we serve. Are you up for the challenge? If not, you may want to reconsider your role as a leader. The last I checked, leaders are supposed to lead the way to change for the good of the whole…to get out of the box to innovate and inspire others — not keep people lame, weak or stuck in itty-bitty boxes. What are your thoughts and ideas?
